Is Tinder Right For Your Dating Needs?14 Mar 2017, Posted by Relationships in
In the world of modern dating, it’s hard to avoid the online dating options available. With so many sites available, where should someone begin? You have to ask yourself if you’re willing to pay for the use of one of these sites or if you’d prefer to use the services provided via a free online dating website.
Good, bad or indifferent, online dating is here to stay and many people both young and old turn to the online resources to find a match. The online community is a microcosm of life in general where the wants and needs of those online is as diverse as the people themselves.
Maybe you’re looking for a one night stand, a no strings ongoing casual thing, long term relationship, dating and anything or everything in between. It is possible to find a match for your needs online if you’re willing to put in the effort and have a bit of patience.
The online community is a microcosm of life in general where the wants and needs of those online is as diverse as the people themselves.
The focus for this article is to see if Tinder is the right choice for you. Tinder was, at one time, strictly a hookup site. We choose one another, one comes over, we have sweaty, naked good time and one leaves. Perfect in many ways.
However, Tinder has now morphed from strictly a hookup site to the more traditional (if that’s possible with online dating) meeting place for hopeful singles.
Since the site launched in 2012, Tinder has seen upwards of 1.6 billion (yes billion) users utilize the dating app. They boast more than 6 billion matches made since the sites inception a little over three years ago.
So, is Tinder right for you? That’s for you to decide. I’ve had some success with Tinder but it’s important for the Tinder novice to understand how it works and who you’re likely to meet.
How Does Tinder Work?
Tinder is about as user friendly a site as you can possibly ask for. Basically, you set up a profile, upload pictures (accessed through Facebook), write a brief bio and start “swiping.” You put in your search preferences and single women in your area will show up. If you find a woman interesting, you swipe right; if you aren’t interested, swipe left. If she likes you, then the app will show that you’re matched and you’ll be able to initiate a conversation.
What We Like about Tinder
One of the best parts about Tinder, especially for men, is that both people have to show interest before you’re allowed to make contact. For many men, one of the biggest frustrations with online dating is sending out messages that never get any response. We’ve all been there, we see a woman we find intriguing, send her a very personalized message showcasing our common interests only to get no response. Not even an honest yet still frustrating, “thanks but I’m not interested” type of polite rejection.
With Tinder, that frustrating aspect of online dating is all but removed. With the more traditional paid and free sites, it can be difficult to get a response to messages. Usually, once contact has been established, it’s easier to set up a face to face meet and greet.
The beauty of the app is that you can’t initiate any contact with someone who hasn’t shown at least some interest in you (and your profile). This benefits women because they know that only those men they have shown interest in can message. For guys, this aspect of the app is the green light needed to start to pursue someone interesting.
She chose you. She didn’t have to but there was something intriguing enough for her to swipe right. The biggest hurdle of online dating is all but removed. Now, you’re free to win her over with your witty banter and panty dropping humor.
What Type of Woman uses Tinder?
There was a time in Tinder’s recent past where you were guaranteed that the women you would meet using the app were just looking for casual sex. However, the times have changed and now people are using the app for more long term dating aspirations as well.
This is actually the perfect time to start using Tinder, since you still have people looking for a casual relationship and those seeking something more long term. In both instances, you have a good chance of meeting someone fun to share some time with and maybe even more.
Much like other dating sites, there is somewhat of a challenge getting that girl from the pen pal stage to actually meeting in person. They probably have anywhere from 10-15 other men they have matched with who are also vying for their attention and affection. It’s important that you grab their attention and get them to commit to a face to face meeting sooner rather than later.
Another risk with online dating is that women tend to put forth the absolute best images of themselves on their Tinder profiles. Be wary of profiles without full body shots if you’re looking for a woman who keeps herself as fit and in shape as you do.
Much of Tinder is still based on one’s photos, as much as you might think it’s your witty banter or PhD, that first impression (and the reason she’ll swipe right) is almost exclusively based on your pictures. Have a good lead photo that will grab their attention and then choose the other five pictures (you’re allotted 6) that showcase who you are.
Be honest with who you are when choosing pictures. Make sure you choose pictures that best reflect your personality and interests. If you’re into the outdoors, sports or chess, make sure you have pictures that show you enjoying those things. You’ll be more likely to attract someone with similar interests.
Stay away from pictures that aren’t true to who you really are. Taking pictures in front of your buddy’s motorcycle when you don’t actually ride will not get you too far. Also, did you know that the #1 picture that turns off women is the shirtless bathroom selfie? While you’re proud of your beach body, keep it off your profile.
It’s up to you if you decide to add Tinder to your online dating repertoire or not but it can be convenient and hassle free if you are honest about who you are and what you want. We wish you all the luck in your future dating life whether it’s online or in person.