Did you know that one of the biggest complaints that beautiful women have is that they are not approached as often as they would like? We’re sure that you probably didn’t know that. Most men assume that a beautiful woman is already taken. After all, how could a woman that stunning not be with someone else, right?
Don’t be intimidated. You need to learn to be confident enough in yourself that you know she would love to have a conversation with you. While most men will be content to sit back and admire a beautiful women from afar, you can rest assured that those women would probably much prefer some good company than spend their time alone.
So, how can you become more comfortable talking with beautiful women? There’s no magic formula to make it happen immediately, especially for those of you who are more introverted, but that doesn’t mean you’re destined to spend your life alone either.
5. Be Comfortable Talking with Anyone
This may seem simplistic at first but if you are unable to strike up a conversation with a stranger who you are not interested in dating, you’ll definitely have trouble when you approach a woman you find attractive.
A great way to become more comfortable talking with strangers, is to actually talk to strangers. “But momma said…” Forget that, you’re not a child and you might miss out on meeting someone truly interesting because you sat back and did not initiate a conversation.
In today’s world, it can be difficult; especially with everyone’s nose buried in the phones trying their best to be left alone. What you need to do is find ways to strike up a conversation. Maybe that person in line at the grocery story is buying the same potato chips as you. This is a good chance to provide an opener like, “I love these chips” or something of the sort and see if you can strike up a brief conversation. You don’t have to become their new best friend but it will help you become comfortable starting innocuous conversations.
Make a point to try to start a conversation anytime you see an opening. This helps give you the skills and confidence to know that you can easily start a conversation with anyone. Once you’re comfortable with initiating a conversation, it won’t be as intimidating to start one with a beautiful woman.
4. Be Purposeful in your Approach
One you’re comfortable striking up conversations with random strangers, you can begin to become more deliberate when you approach attractive women. You’re not talking with the random stranger in the grocery store, you want your conversations with these women to end in a phone number, date, etc.
What you don’t want to be is the stereotypical guy who slithers over to the girl, looks her up and down and proceeds to hit on her. She’s been down that road before and it’s not something that is ever likely to work.
Approaching with a purpose just means to have a game plan as you initiate the conversation. If a woman is reading a book, you can ask her what she’s reading. You can ask a woman to hand you something or just make a general statement: “I have that song on my playlist.” This gives you a natural way to start a conversation without being obvious that you’re interested in more than the book or song or whatever.
3. Be Polite and Engaging
You catch more flies with honey… The old maxim is true when it comes to talking with beautiful women. Make sure to use your manners. Trust us, she’ll be watching how you interact with other people.
While engaged in conversation with a woman, make sure you allow her to finish her statements. Often times, people can’t wait to interject their own opinion into a subject. While you might think this makes you look intelligent, what it actually does is communicate to the other person that their opinion doesn’t really matter. People are more likely to want to continue a conversation with someone they feel is actively listening to them and respects their opinion.
People engaged in conversation make eye contact and remember details so they can add to the whole conversation. Your ability to remember details will help you engage her and make her want to continue talking with you.
For example, early in the conversation she mentioned that she’s nervous about starting her new job but the conversation turned to other topics quickly after that. You can redirect the conversation by asking her a question like, “So, you said you were nervous about the new job, is it more challenging than previous jobs?” This tells her that you listened and are really interested about who she is as a person.
2. Find Common Interests
You’re trying to establish a connection with this person, so find areas where you actually connect beyond, “wow, you’re hot.” You might be surprised to discover that you have similar tastes in music or movies which will help you find new topics and potential activities you can share together. This will help to humanize her and you’ll realize that she might be beautiful but she’s a regular person just like you.
1. Practice Makes Perfect
This is probably the most useful piece of advice that we can offer. Rome wasn’t built in a day and your confidence approaching and talking to beautiful women will take some time. Try to not get discouraged initially, it’s going to take time for you to feel comfortable with the process, especially if you tend to be more shy and reserved.
That’s why it’s important to just get comfortable talking with strangers you meet while out and about. You’ll be surprised how easy it is to talk to anyone, attractive women included, when you feel comfortable striking up and carrying a conversation.
As we said above, for you to be successful, you’re going to have to put in the work, this is not a magic formula. What this approach will do is give you the confidence and skills to know that you can approach anyone you want and connect with them. You’ll be surprised at how your comfort will lead to your success with attractive women.